Your Hair Care Routine = A Love Letter to Yourself

Kara Field
Feb 1
4 min read

Updated: Feb 4

Life can move at a rapid pace, leaving little time for moments of stillness and self-care. But caring for your hair can be so much more than just part of your daily routine—it can be a chance to slow down, reset, and show yourself some love. Healthy hair starts with mindful habits, and incorporating these self-care rituals into your routine can nourish not only your strands but also your overall energy and self confidence.

Spoiler alert: True confidence doesn’t actually come from how we look—it comes from developing habits that support our mental, physical, and emotional health.

The Art of the Scalp Massage

A scalp massage is more than a feel-good moment; it’s a powerful way to boost circulation, relieve tension, and promote hair growth. Here’s how to make it special:

Use your fingertips to gently massage your scalp in circular motions for 3-5 minutes.
Enhance the experience with a few drops of nourishing hair oil.
Breathe deeply as you massage, allowing yourself to focus on the sensation and release any stress.
For an extra special ritual, ask me about clear quartz gua-sha for the scalp!

Not only will your scalp thank you, but this practice can leave you feeling ultra relaxed and grounded.

A gua-sha helps distribute natural oils and treatments to the scalp. It improves circulation and releases scalp tension.

My favourite hair oils

Turn Wash Day into a Ritual

Instead of rushing through your wash routine, or dreading it, make it a moment of self-care:

Start by brushing your hair gently to detangle and stimulate your scalp.
Use a non-toxic, hydrating cleanser like New Wash to nourish your hair while cleansing it. Focus on massaging your scalp and let the product work its magic.
While you are scrubbing away, visualize lifting and removing away not only dirt but also the energy stored in your hair. When you rinse let it go down the drain.
Remember to rinse with lukewarm water—not too hot, as heat can strip moisture from your hair.
Wrap your hair in a soft towel or microfiber wrap, no rough drying allowed.

Approach your wash day as an opportunity to care for yourself and reset for the week ahead.

try new wash

Deep Conditioning: Your Weekly Reset

A deep conditioning treatment can restore moisture and strengthen your hair, but it can also be a calming ritual when done mindfully:

Mix your treatment in a glass or ceramic bowl with an essential oil of your choice. (Rosemary + Lavender, or Cedarwood + Peppermint are great treatment companions!)
Apply your deep conditioner evenly through damp hair, focusing on the ends.
Comb through your hair gently to ensure even distribution.
Wrap your hair in a warm towel or shower cap to lock in moisture, and let the treatment sit for 10-30 minutes.
While you wait, use this time to relax. Light a candle, put on calming music, or enjoy a few minutes of quiet meditation.

After you rinse, your hair will feel softer, and you’ll feel recharged.

My favorite at home hair treatments:

Restore your hair's integrity, softness and moisture.

The New Wash Damage Repair Method heals hair from the inside out.

Ritual Hair Brushing

Hair brushing can be more than just a way to tame tangles—it can be a calming ritual to begin or end your day. Nightly brushing, is especially a calming way to reset and remove the energy of the day. Here’s how to make it special:

Use a high-quality, gentle brush made from natural materials. (No Wet Brushes!)
Brush slowly, starting from the ends and working your way up to avoid breakage.
Focus on the sensation of each stroke removing any heavy energy you may have picked up during the day and let your mind relax as you brush.

This simple act can help you feel grounded while promoting healthy circulation and distributing natural oils for shiny, nourished hair.

My favorite brushes:

Sam Villa - Signature Series Stying Brush - The best for daily brushing, wet or dry hair. Easy to clean.

iBlend - the BEST shower brush. Use it to work New Wash or treatments and styling products through your hair.

Create a Relaxing Atmosphere

Your environment plays a big role in turning everyday habits into meaningful rituals.

Here are a few ways to elevate your hair care space:

Declutter your space to make it feel calm and inviting.
Light a candle or diffuse essential oils like Lavender or Eucalyptus.
Play soothing music or a guided meditation.

These small touches can transform your hair care routine into a sensory experience that helps you unwind.

A Pattern of Neglect

Unhealed wounds often cause you to hold onto old patterns of neglecting your needs, making it difficult to give your hair the care it deserves. These patterns, shaped by past experiences can lead to neglecting self-care rituals like washing, conditioning, or simply tending to your hair. When you fail to honour your own needs, it reinforces the belief that you’re undeserving of care. However, by choosing to nurture your hair, you also send a powerful message to yourself—that you are worthy of love, attention, and healing, helping to break the cycle of neglect and reclaim your self-worth.

Schedule Professional Care

Sometimes, the best self-care is letting someone else take care of you. Book a Healing Haircut or a Steam Therapy treatment to give your hair the extra attention it needs. These moments in the chair can be an opportunity to relax, recharge, and leave feeling your best.

Self-care doesn’t have to be extravagant or time-consuming; it’s about creating intentional moments that nourish you from the inside out. By transforming your hair care routine into a ritual, you’re not only investing in healthy, beautiful hair but also in your overall well-being. Take the time for yourself—you deserve it!